At some point before you’re a full-time caregiver you might start to see things about your senior’s life that start to concern you. Some of these concerns can mean that you’re about to have a bigger caregiving role in your elderly family member’s life, and that means changes for both of you. So it’s time to talk to your senior about what’s happening.
Do Your Homework.
You’re bringing this topic up with your aging family member because you’ve noticed something or her health has changed in some way. So before you broach the topic, do some homework. Find out what your elderly family member is up against and what you can do to help her. When you can give her information instead of just your concerns, you can both be more proactive.
Be Open about How You’re Feeling.
That doesn’t mean that you can’t share how you’re feeling, though. Be open about how her situation makes you feel. If you’re concerned about her safety, be sure that you express that to her. She needs to know that you’re bringing this up because you love her. Sharing your feelings honestly can sometimes break through any defensiveness that your senior might be feeling.
Respect that this Might Be Difficult for Your Senior.
Your senior may well agree with everything that you’re seeing and that you’re concerned about. But that doesn’t make the conversation any easier for her to have. For many people, needing help with daily tasks and with health issues is such a new experience that they’re just not sure how to cope. When you’re respectful of that fact, she might find it easier to talk to you about what’s going on.
Ask Her What She’s Experiencing.
It’s important to get your elderly family member’s perspective, too. You know what you’re seeing and how you feel about it, and this conversation is your chance to find out what she’s experiencing. If she’s willing to open up even a little bit, really listen to what she tells you. You may not agree with some of the things your aging adult tells you, but it’s important that you hear what she has to say.
If your elderly family member isn’t ready to have this conversation, it might go badly at first. Try to remember not to push the issue with her if she’s not interested. The best thing you can do is to be there for her and to offer your assistance as a caregiver without pressuring her.
If you or an aging loved one are considering caregiver services in Berkeley, CA, contact the caring staff at Provident Home Care. Call today (877) 572-3411.
Robin Conley RN., Owner and CEO of Provident Care Home Care Providing HOME CARE- ASSISTED LIVING PLACEMENT ASSISTANCE