An aging family member who constantly complains is not likely to care how that makes you feel. And if you’re like most caregivers, constant complaints are going to wear you down quickly. How you approach your senior’s reactions and the comments that she makes can dramatically improve your own experience as a caregiver.
Determine if the Complaint Is Valid.
The first step is definitely to determine whether the complaint is a valid one. This can be difficult, especially when your senior seems to be complaining constantly about everything. Ignoring these complaints can mean that you overlook something important, so don’t head straight to that solution. Some aging adults may complain because they just want to know you’re there for them.
Work Closely with Her Doctor.
Make sure that you mention what’s going on to your aging adult’s doctor. Her doctor can let you know what a true emergency might look like or what you should actively be concerned about. Having that information allows you to be more judicious as you’re assessing your senior’s complaints.
Pretend She’s Saying Something Else.
Once you’re sure that your senior isn’t actually in danger or having an emergency situation, you might mentally translate what she’s saying to something more positive. This can help you to deal with the emotions that constant complaining can bring up for you.
Avoid Arguing as Often as Possible.
The last thing that you want to do with your aging adult is engage in any sort of argument about her complaints. This is far more likely to encourage her to dig in her heels rather than cease and desist on the complaining. All an argument does is breed more discontent for both you and your elderly family member.
Take a Break Whenever You Can.
You can’t deal with someone who is constantly complaining and expect that you’ll remain perpetually cheerful. Sometimes you need to be able to take a break and think about anything besides what’s going on at home. Hire elderly care providers who have experience with seniors like your elderly family member and then take a break. Make this as regular as you possibly can to give yourself the best results.
It’s really tough to handle an aging adult who actively wants to complain as much as possible. She may have her reasons, but that still doesn’t make life easier for you as her caregiver. Take care of her immediate needs and remember to take care of yourself, too.
If you or an aging loved one are considering elderly care in Oakland, CA, contact the caring staff at Provident Home Care. Call today (877) 572-3411.
Robin Conley RN., Owner and CEO of Provident Care Home Care Providing HOME CARE- ASSISTED LIVING PLACEMENT ASSISTANCE
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