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How Can You Cope When an Aging Adult Only Wants to Complain?

An aging family member who constantly complains is not likely to care how that makes you feel. And if you’re like most caregivers, constant complaints are going to wear you down quickly. How you approach your senior’s reactions and the comments that she makes can dramatically improve your own experience as a caregiver.

Elderly Care in Oakland CA: Dealing with Complaints

Elderly Care in Oakland CA: Dealing with Complaints

Determine if the Complaint Is Valid.

The first step is definitely to determine whether the complaint is a valid one. This can be difficult, especially when your senior seems to be complaining constantly about everything. Ignoring these complaints can mean that you overlook something important, so don’t head straight to that solution. Some aging adults may complain because they just want to know you’re there for them.

Work Closely with Her Doctor.

Make sure that you mention what’s going on to your aging adult’s doctor. Her doctor can let you know what a true emergency might look like or what you should actively be concerned about. Having that information allows you to be more judicious as you’re assessing your senior’s complaints.

Pretend She’s Saying Something Else.

Once you’re sure that your senior isn’t actually in danger or having an emergency situation, you might mentally translate what she’s saying to something more positive. This can help you to deal with the emotions that constant complaining can bring up for you.

Avoid Arguing as Often as Possible.

The last thing that you want to do with your aging adult is engage in any sort of argument about her complaints. This is far more likely to encourage her to dig in her heels rather than cease and desist on the complaining. All an argument does is breed more discontent for both you and your elderly family member.

Take a Break Whenever You Can.

You can’t deal with someone who is constantly complaining and expect that you’ll remain perpetually cheerful. Sometimes you need to be able to take a break and think about anything besides what’s going on at home. Hire elderly care providers who have experience with seniors like your elderly family member and then take a break. Make this as regular as you possibly can to give yourself the best results.

It’s really tough to handle an aging adult who actively wants to complain as much as possible. She may have her reasons, but that still doesn’t make life easier for you as her caregiver. Take care of her immediate needs and remember to take care of yourself, too.

If you or an aging loved one are considering elderly care in Oakland, CA, contact the caring staff at Provident Home Care. Call today (877) 572-3411.

Robin Conley RN, Owner and CEO

RN, Owner and CEO at Provident Care - Modesto, CA
When my grandmother’s health began to deteriorate... My greatest fear was that something would happen to her when I couldn’t be there. She had become unsteady on her feet, forgot to take her medications when she was supposed to, was not eating meals that fit into her dietary restrictions and often failed to recognize signs that she was getting into trouble. I knew that it was her firm desire to stay in her own home, but the amount of oversight I knew she needed was sometimes overwhelming for me to do alone. This is where my journey started! Providing care to seniors in our community is not just a job for me... It is something that has touched my life personally and something that I am passionate about! I know firsthand the worry and uncertainty caused when someone you love becomes ill or injured and how overwhelming the responsibility of caring for a loved one can be. I also know that finding a compassionate caregiver can often restore health, provide seniors with a renewed sense of control and independence, reduce depression, and relieve family members so they can once again be a caring son or daughter. So if you find yourself or someone you may know, in this situation... Our team of care managers and professional, compassionate caregivers at Provident Care would be honored to help you care for your loved one. Our staff is committed to caring for our clients as if we were caring for a member of our own family.

Robin Conley RN., Owner and CEO of Provident Care Home Care Providing HOME CARE- ASSISTED LIVING PLACEMENT ASSISTANCE